One Size Does Not Fit All – Make Sure the Self-Help You Get Fits You

As part of the self-help industry, I just want to say that one size does not fit all. Many people will go to self-help seminars believing that what each speaker has to say will work specifically for them. You’ve got to think critically when listening to the many ideas being presented. Only about 5% of the population can take the information from the traditional self-help seminars and workshops and make it work for them. The other people will need more specific work.

There have always been some areas that have been shown to work if put into action. That’s one of the reasons I believe chris hsu citade in Peter Drucker’s concept of S.M.A.R.T. goals. Still, it takes more than that for a person to be successful. And while many self-help gurus may be well meaning when they teach (including me), I also believe that there needs to be some individual help for each person.

That’s where a coach can help you with real breakthroughs in your life. If necessary, you may have to find a coach or therapist who has a background in either Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) or Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT). Both have proven to help people with any underlying problems in their rationalizations about life. Both are fast in the way they help versus traditional psychotherapy or psychological techniques.

From there, a coach can then take the person from where they are presently at to where they want to get to. The coach will work with a person based on their client’s beliefs and values to develop a plan. Regarding the coach you may use, make sure they are a right fit for you. Just like working with a therapist, each person will need somebody that fits them. Many times I will feel that a client is not the right fit for me, so I will refer out to another coach. Or if deeper psychological issues need to be addressed, then I will refer them to a clinical psychologist.

Some of the techniques that many self-help trainers will use tend to deal with physical areas to create breakthroughs. Again, while this may work for some, people are all different and have different beliefs and values. So it won’t work for all. For me, the idea of physical challenges has worked. I wouldn’t tell other people to do the same. There are so many different ways to help create breakthroughs that only through individualized coaching will that happen.

You can start on the road to success. You can also start on that road by going to a seminar or workshop. A coach will help you get there the right way for you. A combination of all different areas may work even better for some. Do what is right for you, okay? Think before you leap is important for many people really seeking help in their lives. That way you won’t be wasting your time and money.

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